Change or Not to Change

Two things which differentiate humans from other living things are

• Humans change the surroundings according to their needs.
• Humans built tools to do things.

These two things are very important.

But in accordance to the first point in surroundings we include other people also.

We want people around us to be like how we want them to be.

Similarly people around us want us to change.

But as people we resist change. And so do them. J So it’s the chicken and egg problem.

And what happens is there are some qualities which are so obvious to us that people should have because we have learnt that behavior from years and now. So it’s very obvious to us that the other person should have a particular behavior trait. But as the other person is brought up differently and gone through different experiences has different behavior traits.

So if you feel that some person around you is doing something wrong try to tell him that he is doing wrong.

Don’t tell him to change. Make him realize he has to change.

Because both might be right in their places.

Similarly when somebody tells you to change think of it with an open mind and see if a change is really necessary.

And only if you feel it is necessary change.

Because the person telling you might have a different perspective of things which might right or wrong for you.